Lovers Reconnect Through Facebook 30 Years Later, Get Married


Mon, Aug 19th, 2013 20:00 by capnasty NEWS

On The New York Times, the lovely story of Gay Cioffi and Mark Obenhaus who, in 1978, had a summer fling in the Hamptons. They lost touch shortly after, reconnected over Facebook in 2012 and just recently married.

When she returned home to Washington she listened to Steely Dan. Her 32-year-old niece Carly Cioffi, who lives with her, asked about the music. And so Ms. Cioffi told her the story about that summer in Sagaponack and Mr. Obenhaus. "She says, 'You need to find this guy, you need to look him up, see if he's on Facebook,' and I say, 'No, no, no, no, no, no, no,'" Ms. Cioffi recalled. "It is such a cliche' to look up old boyfriends and then be disappointed, and it was so perfect; I don't want to disturb what to me was this perfect memory."

But Ms. Cioffi did find him on Facebook. His beard was gone, his shaggy brown hair was grayer, and his cheeks were more sunken, but she was again drawn to his blue eyes. She made a "friend request" and promptly panicked. But this lasted only for the four minutes that it took Mr. Obenhaus to respond: "So nice to see your name appear. I thought of you and that summer we met when Nora Ephron passed. I have a home not far from where we met and was at Gibson Beach this weekend. I hope we can catch up some day. Life is too short, as they say."

Her profile photograph revealed her brown hair was now a grayish blond, her face was thinner, and Mr. Obenhaus "thought she looked beautiful, and I thought in my mind, 'There's a person who I had this great feeling for once,'" he said. "And, even though I'd been saying to others and myself, 'Single from here on out, fella,' um ..."



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