"One way to avoid killing your heart is to decide that you will spend your whole life growing up." The End of Teenagehood


Wed, Dec 4th, 2013 20:00 by capnasty NEWS

Rookie's editor, Tavig Gevinson, has this wonderful open-hearted piece on forever -- "the state, exclusive to those between the ages of 13 and 17, in which one feels both eternally invincible and permanently trapped" -- and how, eventhough this period will eventually end, "it’s hard to imagine ever not feeling this way, being this person, having this life."

[...] Forever is not the only time a person is transitioning, finding their place in the world, finding their identity. Forever is not the only time in which a person feels things strongly, or for the first time, or in a way that is central to their forming who they are. It’s maybe a crazy concentration of that time, but that doesn’t mean it’s a great time. Sometimes the awful parts are beautiful, but sometimes they’re actually just awful.

The good news is that most people’s lives get better after Forever. The bad news is that some people’s lives don’t, or they do, but those people themselves become cold and bitter and nostalgic for Forever, whether or not their own Forever was really worth pining for. Or, as Allison says in The Breakfast Club, “When you grow up, your heart dies.”

One way to avoid killing your heart is to decide that you will spend your whole life growing up. I am not saying you should aspire to the maturity level of the characters in Hot Tub Time Machine; I am suggesting we resist a life that looks, in line-graph form, like it goes up and up and up and then it stops, and then it levels out, and then it stays on that flat plane until death. I hope to live a life that goes up and up and up until the end, with the inevitable dip here and there. I hope to continue to learn and change.



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