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Mon, Feb 17th, 2003 03:00 by Melissa DeWilde ARTICLE

So there I was, checking my mail. I look, and I see that I actually got some. "WOW," I think to myself. Mail! So I get it out of the box and look at it. "Women In Transition" it somehow proudly displays on the front. It's from Women's Services at SIU. I assume that all female students got one.

I get to my room and open it up. Did you know that October 16-21 is Women's Safety Week? I didn't either. But now we both do.

Being a woman who sometimes wishes she wasn't, this pisses me off. The whole dang newsletter pissed me off. There are going to be all kinds of seminars that women can go to that week. Even a museum exhibit. The letter contained a helpful list of safety and prevention tips. I'll get to those. They're horrible.

But why is the emphasis just on women's safety? Do men not get beat up? Why can't we have a just plain safety week?

Yes, I know that women get raped, and women get beat up by their husbands and boyfriends and pimps and whatnot. In most cases of wife beating, it's not the first time it's happened. If the stupid little girls would just learn the first time to get their butts out it wouldn't get the chance to happen a second, third, fourth and so on time. As for rape, our frickin' society puts such an emphasis on sex, it's not surprising that men who can't get any go and take it out on the first woman in a dark alley they see. Go jack off! I say to them.

(Author's note: this was written two years ago. I know I'm probably wrong, but it was just an English 101 paper.)

According to this handy newsletter I got, 84% of rapes/attempted rapes/sexual assaults were unarmed. Here's my advice to women who are afraid of being raped: Kick them in the NADS!! Jeez, it's not that hard. They can't do anything if you get 'em hard enough, much less try to screw you. Or carry a pocket knife. I do. It's not for self- defense, but I could use it as such. Here's another dumb woman item. 64% of rape survivors didn't tell the police! (How they know that I don't know, but hey) So not only did they get raped, they didn't tell the police, so the guy who raped them is left free to roam and rape again. And 2/3 of the victims knew the guy who raped them. So it's not like they'd have a hard time finding the bastard in a line up.

Anyway, I told you I had some annoying tips. Here they are, along with my pissed off comments:

At home:

  • Leave the lights on when you're out. (Note: people with incomes less than $15,000 are 3 times more likely to be raped or sexually assaulted. So not only are they paranoid, they're poorer than they have to be.)
  • Avoid isolated places, such as elevators, laundry rooms, and garages. (So we can't go anywhere. And if we do want to go up a floor, we have to wait for ten other people to go with us.)

On Dates or in Social Settings:

  • Make your limits clear before you get into sexual situations. ("Hi! I'm your date, and I don't plan on having sex with you tonight!")
  • Avoid secluded places, such as parks or beaches. (Isn't that what people are supposed to do on dates? Go to romantic secluded places?)
  • Drive yourself or arrange for other transportation. ("I'll pick you up at 8?" he says. "The hell you will, you dirty man-whore!")

When Driving:

  • Scan the area when approaching your car. Look under your car and in the back seat, too. (Not only are they paranoid, they look pretty dumb too.)

But did you know that men are beat up and assaulted twice as much as women are? So, once again, I ask why can't we have a Safety Week? Even here at SIU we've heard of the male students who were beat up at late at night while walking through Thompson Woods (even though there are signs that warn them not to) and we still hear about the "Take Back The Night" programs that are targeted specifically towards women only.

The feminists complain about wanting to be equal with men. But they are the same people who organize events like this. The same people who scream at men to treat them equally encourage women to celebrate their womanhood and appreciate the differences.

When will we learn that a demand of equality does not necessarily engender equality? In demanding a group will set themselves above the group they want to be equal to. As for women, if they were treated equally, they would complain about not being treated like women.

A delegate in the French parliament once pointed out that there were differences between men and women. "Vive la difference!" another delegate replied.



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