Relationships... that's all I hear about from so many people, and so, it's amazing what kinds of insights I can gain from listening to my friends talk about their relationship dealios. Relationships are pieces of crap. No matter what, they always, always, ALWAYS leave someone miserable. Whether it's unrequited love, or the guy who's crush chose his best friend, or the girl who wants more from the guy, or vice versa. It's a never-ending cycle of tedious, demanding loving and trying to make things "work out", when ultimately, things were doomed from the start.
First of all, as we probably all know, girls are much more sensitive than guys. But until recently, I never fully realized how true that is. I'm a girl, and I knew that I was a sensitive person, but I mean, I never wanted to admit to it. I don't see how I can't after hearing about other girls and how they react to their boyfriends, ex-boyfriends, or crushes.
No matter what, the girl will always think that the guy just doesn't understand. Maybe he does, maybe he doesn't. But according to her, he doesn't. He could say, "I can't see you anymore because of a, b, and c", and the girl would still prevail and say, whimpering to add effect to the guilt trip, "You're just too confusing! You don't even know what you want!" Woe is the boy who is truly not confusing, but has to endure the pain of being shunned and deemed misunderstanding. Now, on to another tangent.
I realized today that there are the guys who truly do care about relationships, and then, there are the guys who don't, or think they do, or try to, but they really don't. For example, there's the guy who will cry when he sees the girl he loves but just can't see anymore, and there's the guy who will ignore the girl after making her feel like she's the most pretty, special girl ever, then break up with her after a month, realizing he likes too many girls to have just one... aka. Bastards. Now, there are most likely some Middle-of-the Road guys who are more or less, a little of both. Those would probably be the guys that are the ones that girls like but they don't know why they like them. They tend to be the ones people OBSESS about until you want to shoot them because you don't want to be the bitch to tell them they will NEVER be with that person... EVER. So harsh and twisted is this relationship web.
Now, keep in mind, there is most often a mediator of a relationship when times get hard. This lucky person is often a good friend of both the male and female counterparts of the couple. I send out my sympathies to those who are in the middle of a dying romance, hearing not only one, no, but BOTH sides of the story. This situation, well, sucks. Not only must you lie through your teeth to one of them with whom you think is being the problem in the relationship, but you must also be very prepared to just drain yourself completely dry of all the relationship advice you have accumulated thus far, because you are going to lose it ALL. Also, if you are a non-swearing kind of person, you must be open to hearing many "fuck it"'s throughout the whole period of time. Because "fuck it" is the "I don't care about this anymore!" line.
But oh no, they care.
And they'll draw you back into the triangle of their damn relationship, and all
because you don't have the balls to tell them to shut the fuck up.
So I say good for you if you're single, good riddance to you if you're not, and if your relationship sucks, I'm sorry. That sucks for you.
Catie Darts is bitterly envious of those in good relationships. She awaits her Prince Charming to ride in on his white horse, but predicts a crazy hunter shoots the horse while the prince is sweeping her off her feet. Because that would just kill the moment. Literally.
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An excellent piece.
This article about sums it all up.
Yet by some miracle, i continue to be optimistic. go figure.
yay relationships!
Good Stuff
Write a story about it.
I sometimes feel all school is teaching you kids how to do is analyze your feelings. Instead of just feeling them.
And if you are a writer type guy, you should be USING those feelings to create, as Stephen King puts it, highly readable fiction.
Instead of dissecting a whine. Hm? *grin*
Men and woman are the same, under the skin. But if you approach them with the filters of things like, oh, I dunno, "I suck; you aren't interested, you never listen, it'll never work"..
you become a prophet.
Thanks for the mindfodder.
Heather
http://heatherlovatt.deviantart.com
...condescending advice Ms. Heather Lovatt.
ie.
"I sometimes feel all school is teaching you kids how to do is analyze your feelings. Instead of just feeling them."
Perhaps you can teach her to write flaccid poetry instead? I'm sure Ms. Dart would be so thankful for your bountiful and wise "deviant artisan" tutilage.
I "feel" that your comment was a cheap excuse to freely post your URL to have more people view it
I don't know what type of spams is worse: ads for viagra, free p0rn, or your website plastered on a comment. Is this what they teach you at U of Manitoba? Ah, you must be a humanity/arts student...
Instead of dissecting a whine. Hm? *grin*
Yet, here we have you responding with a whine of your own. After surfing CoN for a meager hour or so?
It appears you only bothered to read four articles from CoN
http://con.ca/issues/9/5/1486
http://con.ca/issues/3/19/670
http://con.ca/issues/7/14/1252
and
http://con.ca/issues/7/8/1187
Two of which are from the honourable REV,
In the words of our esteemed and dedicated Editor:
We will file your letter next to the other guys who periodically toss off a venom-laced, pseudo-hip mail accusing us being unimaginative, conformist blah blah blah, but without offering any constructive advice on actually what they'd like to see, or worse, submit an article of their own that meets their criteria. After all, if they did that, it would only be torn apart by some wanker wit who's read a few books and now thinks he's the cutting edge of new and innovative media without actually having produced anything of his own. (http://con.ca/issues/4/10/380)
Mindfodder indeed.
Well, after reading that I'm thinking about sending Rolo some complimentary (stolen, yet still baked fresh) Subway cookies as a peace offering to make sure I'm never on his bad side.
And did anyone else notice she used that little "*grin*" thing a lot?
And.... tomorow is FREE COOKIE DAY at Subway!!! At least at the one I work at. :)
Thank you Rolo and Smitty-Boy. It's much appreciated. and to Heather Lovatt: it is my pleasure indeed to provide you with mindfodder. Although I'm dying to know when secondary schools began teaching "Relationship Analysis". and I believe I do use my feelings to "create". I create my sarcastic pieces of literature for "highly readable" entertainment. Thank you.